WHY?

Two year old Avery Denzinger is going to grow up without her daddy. Her father Frank was buried yesterday after being shot and killed while trying to do his job. Frank was a sheriff's deputy who responded to a domestic violence call and was gunned down by a 15 year old kid, who shot Deputy Denzinger in the back from his bedroom window, and then reported his deed on his myspace page before killing himself. And the only question anyone can ask is WHY?

Why did a kid who was scheduled for a hearing in court the next day on a drug charge still have a computer and internet access in his bedroom? If my children ever are required to appear in court on any kind of charge while they are still under my roof they are going to be hoping for jail because at least there you have cable television.

Why in a house where arguments became so intense that officers had to be called to the home to calm disputes several times, did a teenager have access to a loaded weapon? If you have so little control over your kid that you sometimes have to have police back-up don't you think perhaps it would be wise to disarm them.

I don't mean to pile on the family of this kid who I am sure feel awful about what happened and will be burying their own son soon, but it just happens too often that innocent people and their families are being destroyed by these troubled souls and I am not sure feeling bad after the fact is enough anymore. Why can't we stop this?

Why do these people who for whatever reason decide to end their own lives have to destroy other lives along the way? Why do they find it so easy to throw away human life? No reason is good enough for me anymore. They make the choice to kill and especially in cases where they have no relationship with their victims we need to stop justifying it. I don't care if kids picked on them. I don't care if their daddy didn't love them. I just don't care.

I think what made me so angry was when I was reading about this story on courier-journal.com they had a link to the shooter's myspace page and on it were all these messages from kids writing about what a great guy this kid was and how the media was getting it all wrong. The only mention of the incident seemed to be references to the "choice" he had made. The "choice" he made was to shoot an innocent father in the back and then inform his friends about it on the internet. When he made this "choice" Tyler Dumstorf became a murderer. And then he took the easy way out so that when Avery Denzinger grows up there won't be anybody to answer WHY?

BO KNOWS that prior to any marriage a full season of 48 Hours Mystery should be required viewing. I think if more people watched this show they would realize when you kill your spouse/significant other you will get caught. How many times is this going to happen before people wise up? I knew the first time I saw the story of missing Jessie Davis the boyfriend would end up the killer and today they arrested him. How stupid can you be? You can't get away with a crime where you are automatically the #1 suspect. Haven't these people ever heard the old saying " Women, can't live with them, Can't kill them without getting arrested."

BO KNOWS despite attempts to create some drama for this Tuesday's NBA draft Greg Oden is going to be the first pick.

BO KNOWS how to solve the Lakers problems. It is obvious now that Kobe is running down his teammates to complete strangers in mall parking lots that this is not going to work. ESPN's Ric Bucher who seems to have become the accepted authority on Bryant said on a Podcast the other night that there was zero percent chance Kobe would open the season as a Laker. So I say we blow the whole thing up and start over. We trade Odom, Bynum, and Farmar to the Nets for Jason Kidd. (I know the Nets say they are keeping him but teams always say that). We trade Kobe in a three way deal that sends him to Chicago, sends a package of Bulls and our number 19 pick to Minnesota and brings Kevin Garnett and the number 7 pick to LA. (I would really like to deal him and 19 straight to Minnesota for KG and 7 but what Kobe fails to mention in his trade demand is that he has a no trade clause which allows him to veto any deal. So why he claims to want out of LA, really he is only going to accept deals that send him to Chicago, Phoenix or Dallas making it almost impossible for the Lakers to get fair value.) With the seven pick the Lakers take Cory Brewer. This would give us a starting line-up of Kidd, Brewer, Walton, KG and Mihm/Brown. It gives us two superstars to sell tickets and we can make a three year run at which time we would have two aging veterans with huge expiring contracts and if they can't win we hold on to the cap room to sign free agents. There will be some big names available around this time, LeBron, Wade possibly Durant and Oden.

BO KNOWS despite brutal reviews Evan Almighty will be a huge money maker. Steve Carrell (shown here as depicted in the Office video game) is one of the most popular stars around and the animal angle makes it seem like an OK movie for kids, That combination should guarantee success although I still question 175 million dollar budget for a comedy.

BO KNOWS people are desperate to lose weight without doing the required dieting and exercising, but what risks are they really willing to take. There is a multi-million dollar ad campaign going on to promote some new diet drug called Alli. The drug stops your body from absorbing much of the fat you consume. There is however according to some reports the small chance you will experience a side effect they are calling "leakage". Now I think two of the major reasons people want to lose weight is to look good or to feel more confident. I think any benefits I would get in either area would be negated by the fact that I could crap my pants at any moment. I think this will be a problem. Talk to you next week.

FATHER'S DAY

My son is 3 years old now, but somehow this still doesn't seem like my day. It still feels like a day reserved for much older men for whom there is no gift they need so you give them some piece of crap they neither need nor want hoping they understand what it means.

I suppose I am just in denial. In some ways it seems like yesterday I was swigging Wild Turkey like it was water and barely feeling bad about it the next day. But at the same time that young man living in UK dorms and dreaming of a career in sports television seems like a completely different person. Like some story I read or show that I saw.

It is probably time to get a grip on reality. It is time to quit seeing myself as the kid and come to accept the Diet-Pepsi drinking, Khakis wearing, cartoon watching, sidewalk chalk drawing Dad I have become. I make my living teaching about places I've never been and coaching a game I never could really play. But it feels right, so it is all good.

I know one thing, Father's Day does make you reflect on just how much your life has changed. I remember camping out all night on a Lexington sidewalk for tickets to a Garth Brooks concert and coming away from the window so excited to be in the lower level, and recently I was offered a chance to buy PlayHouse Disney LIVE! seats before they go on sale. I did it with my credit card over the internet and I think I was just as excited. We are in row A.

I remember going to King's Island and riding every roller coaster in the place as many times as I could get through line until they closed the park down. I took my son to the local amusement park on Friday. We rode two merry-go-rounds about five times each,sat on a ferris wheel that went up about 12 feet, and watched the Bugs Bunny show three times. I had a blast.

The weirdest part about being a Father is how to a good part of the world I have lost my identity other than in relation to my son. That became apparent the other day as I was leaving day care after dropping him off and a little girl on her way in stopped to say, "Hi Evan's Daddy."

And now I can confirm that there is another little one on the way. We are hoping for a girl. So that old guy I thought this day was for, hell, I guess it is me. So to any other Father who may see this, enjoy your day.

BO KNOWS the Sopranos Finale has been done to death this week but I feel the need for a few comments. I think people have to understand in general the population doesn't view paintings, or admire sculptures, or even read a damn book. In general we have rejected any form of art that requires thinking and discussion. So if our most popular medium, TV, wants to throw in something every once in awhile that requires these things I am OK with that. I would even encourage it. I have read a lot about the show this week and what makes me mad about the finale is how much brilliant work was overlooked because of the preoccupation with that last scene. I thought it felt a little rushed and the editing a little choppy but we learned a lot about these characters from some of these scenes and what was amazing was in many cases they didn't say a word. You have to love actors who can really say so much without speaking. My three favorite moments.

1. The look of disgust Carmela gives Tony as he goes into his sob story at the therapist's office.

2. The look of sadness Tony gives Meadow when he finds out her career choice was guided by the fact she felt he has been wronged in some way.

3. And my favorite moment was the look of relief on Tony's face when he realizes maybe in the end you can just forget all the shit you have done like Junior.

As for that final scene I think it is good they left it up to us. By not showing Tony's death they didn't cheat us out of the ending. They let us have the ending we wanted. Maybe it says something about us as people whether we need Tony to die for all his crimes or whether we want him somehow to survive all this and continue his life. Or maybe it's just a TV show.

BO KNOWS I seem to live in a nice quiet neighborhood. The kind of place where I always forget to close my garage and all my shit is still there in the morning. But the local news did a story this week about my area where they showed cops riding around five minutes from my house looking for drug dealers and prostitutes. Particularly scary was the fact they showed cops going into an apartment complex that I frequently entered in my pizza delivery days. I would go there at midnight with 300 dollars in my pocket. The cops now won't enter it alone at 2 in the afternoon. I think this is a problem.

BO KNOWS I can't remember a single thing I learned from Mr. Wizard, but I do remember watching him as a child and it was sad to hear that he is gone.

BO KNOWS I can't wait to see how this Randy Moss story plays out in New England. All the press this week was good, but it will be a good story either way. Either we are going to see one of the great career resurrections in football history or I am going to be able to joke on whoever in the fantasy football league thought we were going to and took this guy in the first round.

BO KNOWS the NBA Finals were boring. Bill Simmons of ESPN.com's Page 2 brought up a great point this week. For the few NBA fans left, and by the ratings there aren't many of us, the off-season player moves and the draft have become more interesting than the actual competition on the floor. I think this is a problem, but I have no clue how to fix it.

BO KNOWS pro athletes seem like nothing but self centered money grubbers these days but if you need a nice story about sports check out Rick Reilly's column on the last page of Sports Illustrated this week. I was going to link it for you but for some reason SI's most recent Reilly post is a column from May. That is stupid.

BO KNOWS those of you seeking motivation to diet should go to an amusement park and play the guess your weight game. Nothing brings how fat you are to reality quicker than watching that four foot red needle spin towards 250 on the face of that 20 foot scale. I got two things from the experience a plush snake and the desire to lose 60 pounds. I think I'll start tomorrow. Talk to you next week.

It has been a long time since I have posted any thoughts but I thought it would be good to get back into the swing. Since I created this blog to write to my fantasy football crew and I will get back to doing that once the season starts it will be my intent to post something each Sunday morning. If you would like to check it out please do so and if not that is OK too as I really just feel an urge to get back to writing something even if only I read it. I think I will write about one main idea each week and then put a few random thoughts at the end keeping with the BO KNOWS theme so here we go with a topic I must address even though I am late ---KOBE BRYANT

As most of you know because it was all over the news a few weeks back Kobe Bryant demanded a trade or declared he never wanted to leave LA depending on what time of day you were listening to the radio. I know he is probably the greatest talent playing the game today, but I have had enough of this guy. Let us face the truth, ever since he got away with rape you have to feel a little dirty pulling for this guy. Not to mention what is more important to me as far as watching basketball is he is just a bad teammate who plays the game selfishly and takes a lot of the fun out of rooting for a team I have loved since way before he came around. Things just haven't felt right since Dr. Buss traded an upstanding citizen to another city where he won a title, and kept this piece of shit who can't get us out of the first round and now after wanting so badly to be the man wants out to play for a better team. Are you kidding me? I have just one comment to that. Good Riddance. I would offer him to Portland or Seattle for the number one or number two pick and when they wisely decline the offer I would trade him straight up to Minnesota for Garnett. We won't be any better but we will be better off.

BO KNOWS the Soprano finale will be great tonight, but I really have no clue what they will do. I am a little upset I will be away at a basketball camp and won't get to see it. What are the chances I can make it home without finding out what happened. Everyone is making predictions so I will make one on the big questions. I think Tony lives.

BO KNOWS I am probably about three years behind the rest of the world which makes sense since my son turned three this year, but I finally got around to seeing the SAW movies this week and even though I went in wanting to hate them I must confess they were very entertaining films. I was expecting a slasher film and was surprised. They are not as bloody as I thought and way more interesting than I anticipated.

BO KNOWS if you have kids you should go see Surf's Up. If you have to watch kids films anyways this one was pretty good. I thought it was better than Happy Feet or Shrek the Third.

BO KNOWS he is tired. The family was on vacation this week so we took a series of day trips. I have been to King's Island, Holiday World, and Kentucky Kingdom this week. And now I am off for three days at Transylvania University for a high school basketball camp. I am looking forward to a few days around the house next week, but I can't complain too much as I will only have 8 more weeks off after this one and BO KNOWS that is a good thing. Have a great week.

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